Find time to go over some or all of these questions either by yourself or with your spouse. You can also ask your kids these questions over dinner or in the car. Make it fun and relaxed. Don't feel bad about what you don't know; kids change constantly. It's a great way to stay in touch with them as they grow and change. What are your child's two favorite foods? What two foods does your child most dislike? What are your child's two favorite kinds of music? Who are your child's favorite singers? What are your child's special hobbies and out-of-school interests? Name all your child's friends. Name all your child's enemies. Who are two of your child's heroes and heroines? Name two of your child's favorite videos or movies. Name two of your child's favorite TV shows. What two animals does your child like, and what two does your child dislike? What would be your child's ideal vacation getaway? Name two of your child's favorite bands. What sports does your child especially like to play? What sports does your child like to watch and follow? Name one person your child has had a crush on. What sport does your child find uninteresting? What is one thing your child would like to change about you? Who is your child's least favorite relative? Name two people your child would pick for wall posters in his/her room. Who is your child's most favorite relative? What would be your child's ideal birthday party this year? What is one thing you would like to change about your child? What would be your child's least favorite kind of birthday party? What three books did your child just read? Name your child's three favorite and three least favorite teachers. | Name two of your child's favorite songs or pieces of music. What are the main problems your child will have to overcome to have a successful and happy life? What occupations has your child seriously considered having as a grown up? What are two occupations that your child definitely would not want to have when s/he grows up? What are your child's two favorite colors? What three games does your child like to play, if any? Where would your child most like to travel, and why? Name two of your child's favorite restaurants. Name two places or events that your child would find uncomfortable What does your child like for you to do when he or she is sick? What was the saddest event in your child's life? What was the worst time your child ever had? What would be your child's ideal bedtime routine? What would be your child's ideal birthday present? Name two things your child fears. What would be your child's ideal weekend? What two things make your child most angry? Describe one heart-to-heart talk you recently had with your child. Describe your child's ideal sack lunch. What would he or she like least? What are two of your child's current stresses? Name two lies your child has told. How does your child feel about school tests? How does your child feel about teasing? What is your child's attitude toward poor people? Describe one time when your child felt ashamed or humiliated. What was the best time your child ever had, and why? Name two things that your child is really worried about. What is one thing you could do to improve your relationship with your child? What does your child most like to do with friends? How does your child get over being sad? Adapted from Gottman, J.M. (2001). The relationship cure. Three Rivers Press, NY.

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